How to Attract Your Dream Circle of Friends

I always wondered why some people effortlessly attract friends while others struggle to connect.

The difference?

Your vibe.

You've heard it before, "your vibe attracts your tribe" but what does it really mean?

It's not just a tacky quote in your feed.

It's a profound truth we all need to understand.

From living in isolation for two years, I realized something that changed my life.

We are taught to be the same boring person as everybody else.

Most of us unknowingly tune into a frequency set by society's standards.

Frequencies of "fitting in", surrounded by faces that don't reflect our inner world, our dreams, our character.

We become part of a routine that is designed by somebody else.

What if we can break out of that norm and start attracting the right people?

You're about to discover how.

The Physics Behind "Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe"

The feeling of being on the same "wavelength" as somebody isn't a coincidence.

Watch this video of the physical representation of how your vibe attracts your tribe.

What you saw in this video is called Resonance.

It's the heartbeat of connection.

You have two metal sticks each humming at their own frequency. 440 hertz and 512 hertz.

When the 512 hertz metal is struck, it vibrates at its natural frequency (512 Hz)

If another object has the same natural frequency (512 Hz) and is within range, it will start to vibrate due to the sound waves.

But introduce a different frequency, say 440 Hz, and the connection is lost. This is resonance.

This isn't just physics; it's a metaphor for our social interactions.

We're drawn to people who 'resonate' with us - those with similar thoughts, emotions, and attitudes (frequencies) that sync up with ours.

Just like the metals, when we encounter someone on our wavelength, the connection is almost inevitable.

Tune Your Frequency

I want you to think of your life like a radio station.

Your personality - your vibe - is the music your station plays.

The more consistent and clear your music is, the easier it is for people to stick with your station.

But what if your station keeps changing its music style?

One day it's r&b, then jazz, then heavy metal.

Listeners who liked your r&b might tune out when you switch to jazz.

This is like us when we're not consistent in who we are.

It's harder for people to connect with us.

Every person around you is also like a radio station, playing their own kind of music.

When someone's style matches yours, they 'tune in' to your vibe because it naturally aligns.

The key here is to be clear about your music - your true self.

Is your 'music' emitting out vibes of positivity and authenticity?

Or are your vibes muddied with negativity, doubt, and fake energy.

By fine-tuning your vibe through self-reflection, personal growth, and authenticity - you enhance the quality of your broadcast.

This doesn't just attract any type of people; it attracts the right ones.

The ones who align with you, love you, and become lifelong friends.

5 Steps to Attract Like-Minded People

1) Identify Your Ideal Social Circle

We have to be ultra clear on who we want in our life.

When we have a clear picture of our ideal social circle, we subconsciously start to act and think in ways that align with that vision.

That is the Law of Attraction.

Something we all do as humans is "subconscious filtering"

We have automatic guidelines in our minds to help us make better decisions.

The sooner you define that filter for your social circle, the sooner you'll find your tribe.

Do this by asking yourself these questions:

• What kind of energy do my ideal people give off?

• What passions or interests do they have?

• How do they approach personal or professional growth?

• How do they treat other people?

Now that you have this clear vision, it's time to look inward.

2. Build Self-Awareness through Self-Discovery

Who do you need to become to attract your ideal social circle?

This question dives into our personal growth and self-improvement. You begin to ask yourself questions like:

• Do I give off the energy that I want to attract?

• How do I treat other people? Does it align with who I want to attract?

• Am I as supportive as I want my friends to be?

• Am I as healthy or in shape as I want my friends to be?

Self-reflection drives self-awareness.

Self-awareness drives change.

Being aware of how you are perceived by others gives you great insight on what needs to change.

If you, yourself wouldn't want to be around you, how do you expect your ideal social circle to want to be around you?

The easy way to change this is by upgrading your habits.

• Practicing journaling (To increase self-awareness)

• Going to the gym (To increase your physical attractiveness)

• Practicing gratitude (To increase your positive mindset)

Each of these things increase your overall “attraction” to help you attract the right people.

Are you seeing the patterns?

3. Mastering the Art of Communication

COVID-19 destroyed our ability to socialize.

2 1/2 years of isolation and conformity, what do you expect?

Communication is not just about talking, but truly connecting with others.

The book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is what changed my life forever.

I learned the principles of proper communication, confidence-building, and important social cues like:

• Smiling, because it makes people feel more comfortable with you

• Showing genuine interest in others, because people LOVE to talk about themselves

• Asking great questions, because it brings the conversation forward

Practicing this art will add benefits to all aspects of your life, especially when it comes to building your social circle.

4. Craft Your Personal Brand

The way to build a strong connection one-on-one is through authenticity and bringing value.

This step is what I call a hyper-leap. You build a platform that allows you to tell your story authentically to a mass amount of people.

This creates a magnet effect, allowing you to connect with 10-100x more people.

In the digital world we live in, it's a limiting mindset to think you don't need a personal brand.

Think about it.

The new "giving out your phone number" is now your Instagram Handle.

It's your portfolio.

When you mix in-person connecting with a personal brand, you will find that connecting with your tribe has been easier than ever before.

5. Explore Target-Rich Environments (TRE's)

From societal norms and programming, we've been taught to stay comfortable and not venture out.

This is the year you attract your ideal circle of friends and change that forever.

The old advice for making friends is to find them at:

• The Gym

• Church

• Local Events

While that works for some, it's not always the most effective.

These places do not always have your target audience.

The modern way of doing it is to explore target-rich environments where your ideal tribe is hanging out (TREs)

Nowadays, there are thousands of events and communities for people like yourself.

You can easily find your tribe in TREs like:

• Interest-based events like a marketing workshop

• A creators mixer hosted by an influencer in town (could be you)

• Or an online community of young entrepreneurs like the truka community.

Take advantage of these environments that have people on your same wavelength.

Your people are out there.

You just need to make the first step.

-Leo Valentino

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